When You
Don't Like Your Behavior
But, also, stop the film whenever you see yourself performing in a way that you
don’t like. Wherever you’re unhappy with what you said or did, wherever you
don’t like or approve of your underlying feelings or motives, stop the film. Pause
and reflect: "I don’t like the way I behaved there. I’m not happy with the
way I spoke. I certainly wouldn’t like to do that again."With the film
pausing but ready to roll on when you say the word, take time to consider for a moment:
"What would I rather do? What would have been better for me to say? How could I have
handled that better? More importantly, how would I like to handle that next time? What
would be a better way to deal with this situation if it comes up again?"
Raise these questions and determine how you’ll behave next time, what you will
choose to do if given another opportunity. Then you can edit your film. Consciously
consider what you will do in the future. What is the ideal conduct? What is the best way
to handle this situation if given another chance? Mentally conceive of this, visualize it.
Have the feelings now that you would like to have at that time. You can generate a new
attitude and a new way of being at the ready for the next chance.
You are now ready to learn how to edit the movie...
